This is a link we found and is by far one of the best multimedia presentations for couples experiencing infertility.  It may take a while to download on slow connections, but it's definitely worth the wait.  Make sure your speakers are on.

http://www.vocalicious.com/empty_arms/empty_arms_mod.html

We found this on the Internet and think that it's worth repeating here.

What God Meant

by Dawne Davis

Couples experiencing infertility often receive well meaning but extremely insensitive "advice". We can all list the most popular ones: "Just relax and you'll get pregnant,” or "adopt and you'll get pregnant" or the most painful from those who think they have the goods on Gods plan: “Maybe God never meant for you to have children." The sheer audacity of making a statement like that never fails to amaze me. These same people would never walk up to someone seeking treatment for cancer and say, "Maybe God never meant for you to live." However, because I am infertile, I’m supposed to just get on with my life.

It's hard to understand that people cannot see infertility for what it is: a disease for which I have the right to seek treatment. What if Jonas Salk had said to the parents of polio victims: "Maybe God meant for thousands of our children to be cripples, live in iron lungs or die." What if he never tried to find a cure? Who could think for one minute that that was God's plan?

What do I think God meant when he gave me infertility? I think he meant for my husband and I to grow closer, become stronger, love deeper.  I think God meant for us to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think God meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, create procedures and protocols. I think God meant for us to find a cure for infertility. No, God never meant for me not to have children.

That's not my destiny; that’s just a fork in the road I am on. I’ve been placed on the road less traveled, and like it or not, I’m a better person for it. Clearly, God meant for me to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let Him down. Frankly if the truth be known, I think God singled me out for special treatment. I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest coolest, most refreshing drink I have ever known.

While I would have never chosen infertility, I cannot deny that a fertile woman could never experience the joy that I know awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice, I'll say, "Don't tell me what God meant when He handed me infertility. I already know.

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